The Cost of Growth: When Friends Become Foes




This morning, I woke up feeling so grateful and completely thankful. I was so appreciative of not just the “BIG” things, but also the small, simple things. A lot has happened in my life—at a very fast pace over the past several years—and I’m finally having the much-needed time to just take it all in. It’s been a GREAT, but sometimes hard road to travel. I was reflecting on how far I’ve come and completely overwhelmed by God’s favor and grace over my life. But, if I can be honest, I was also a bit troubled by the pain that came with the journey. You see, progress and what we deem as “success” does not come without a cost. And, many times, it will cost you things that you never thought you’d have to give up.


For me, it’s been more of my time (in order to achieve the things that I have been praying for), my “comfort zone”/what was familiar, and more. But for this particular discussion, I would like to chat about the cost of growth/“When Friends become Foes.” And if you’re wondering what a “Foe” is, I will kindly explain: a foe is essentially an enemy, an adversary, and someone who does not have your best interest in mind.


And if you’re wondering how on earth does a “friend” become a “foe,” you would be surprised by what can transpire, causing a great split between those you once called “friend.” Think about David and Saul. At one point, Saul completely admired David—so much so, that he practically took him under his wings and gave him access and a “VIP” seat to his kingdom. Saul was so taken by David’s abilities and skills, that he appointed him as his personal armor bearer. However, when David began to gain more traction, attention, and “praise”—Saul become jealous, envious, and set in his heart to take David out.


Can you imagine serving and working closely with someone, expecting them to celebrate your “greatness,” yet the opposite started to happen? Can you imagine allowing someone to be “close up” on you—only to find out that they were plotting, scheming, and ultimately seeking to destroy you—all in the name of jealousy, insecurities, and plain-out evilness in their heart.


As someone who is fully committed to whatever I set my mind out to do, including my relationships and friendships, I can confidently, yet humbly say that I am a “real one.” When I rock with you, I really rock with you. But, we’re all human, and when someone “comes for you,” that human side kicks in (no matter who you are).