Healing Hurts: It's Worth The Pain

I genuinely believe that many (not all) experience disconnection and isolation due to trauma, not because they dislike others or lack a desire to do what's right, but because they've been traumatized. And I can feel, see, understand and hear them (and you, if it’s you) . 

Seeking God's help and healing is crucial, but acknowledging the real effects of trauma on the mind, body, and brain is equally important.

In my view (personal & professional experience), healing requires confronting and addressing the issue & the impact of trauma. This is why healthy leadership is so important (in all sectors, be it in the home, community, government, corporate world, church, etc).

In order to heal, wounds require meticulous cleaning, focused attention, and sufficient time—particularly when the source of pain is connected to the very place the individual anticipated to provide assistance or contribute to the healing process.

This year, it’s my prayer that we can engage in difficult conversations without ego and pride interfering, understanding that the healing process isn't always pretty; it can be painful and challenging.

It's not that people lack the desire to heal; rather, we face a shortage of authenticity, compassion, empathy, and accountability. Actions speak louder than words. Meaning, people pay ‘more’ attention to how they are ‘actually’ treated—and how others are treated. Simply put: they don’t care what you are saying, if your character doesn’t line up.

This year, my prayer is for genuine healing for ALL who truly desire it—understanding that the process may look messy before it becomes healthy. Been there. Done that.

We can no longer rely solely on motivation and success talk to address deep wounds; proper healing requires authentic acknowledgment and care.

Firstly, let's embrace authenticity and honesty, recognizing our own vulnerabilities and areas that require healing. Whether in leadership roles or any other capacity, may we embody humility and a sincere connection to the 'WHY' behind our actions, our faith, and our shared humanity. Let's provide hope, healing, and manifest the character we advocate for in both our words and actions. May our commitment to truth be mirrored in our daily lives as living examples.

Expressing one sentiment while exhibiting a conflicting attitude and character will cause others to withdraw. We shouldn't anticipate people to follow if our example is tainted with pride and self-interest. While we all possess flaws, it's important to distinguish between having a flaw and choosing to live a life driven by pride—specifically, the underlying motives and purposes behind our actions.

With that said,

God, please bring healing from the inside out.  I can empathize with the pain and hurt that many are experiencing.  

I believe in the possibility and reality of healing—it's available to everyone who seeks it!  I know this from undergoing my own transformative processes throughout life.

Canena Adams, MA, BSW, SRAS

Communications Professional & Leadership Coach

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